Although I cannot be called a “deeply religious Jew,” I still have some unsystematic knowledge of Judaism. At one time, for several years, I even had the opportunity to work as a private editor of a Jewish scholar. Today I can admit that some traditional Jewish ideas about everyday life, which you can not necessarily find in modern literature on psychology and self-improvement, are firmly settled in my mind and, I hope, influence my behavior. Over time, I am increasingly struck by their insight and depth. The list below is compiled in an arbitrary order and consists of quotes about love that, for one reason or another, have had a strong and lasting impact on my worldview and my personal life in particular.
1. Peace and tranquility in the family – one of the most important commandments in Judaism
The power of this statement is well understood by anyone who knows the horrors of discord in a family. The name of God is of great importance in Judaism, and deeply believing Jews refer to the Lord only as “HaShem” which literally means “Name” – instead of calling Him by name. To erase the name of the Lord from memory means to take on the most severe guilt. However, the statement says that there is a more serious sin – family contention. It destroys the foundations of life, cuts off all ties with harmony and peace – or, if you will, with the Lord himself. This rule is especially relevant today, in the era of the total collapse of the institution of the family. There are many issues that people face nowadays when it comes to finding a partner, but here’s some helpful information on the signs of female attraction you need to recognize instantly.
2. The secret to a happy life is that each spouse tries to make the other happy. But when one constantly demands something from the other, they cannot see happiness.
Rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Desler
3. Anyone who refrains from punishing his son and shields him from all the harm of the outside world, hates his son, because, in the end, he will go bad.
Vilna Gaon
4. If you feel that you are seething with indignation and are ready to angrily express your complaints to the one who caused this indignation, know that this is forbidden. No matter how righteous your anger is!
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin
5. Even those who have already paid a person they’ve injured must ask for forgiveness. Even one who offended their neighbor in words is obliged to ask them to be forgiven.
Rambam
6. You are free during the day, under the sun, and you are free at night, under the stars;
You are free when there is no sun, no moon, no stars.
You are free even when you close your eyes to everything.
But you are the slave of your partner because you love them.
And you are a slave to someone who loves you because they love you.
Khalil Gibran
7. The French have a saying: ‘Separation is the same as the wind is for fire. Small fire extinguishes, large fire only grows stronger.
To this we can only add that the “big fire” is too rare, so the saying goes more to the realm of desires than to reality.
Marlene Dietrich
8. Enjoy life with the wife you loved all the days of your busy life, given to you by God.
King Solomon
9. Know that this union is holy and pure if it is accomplished in due time and with the proper intention… God created everything by his wisdom and did not create anything ugly or shameful… He created a man and a woman, created every organ and its function, and there’s nothing ugly or shameful in that.
Ramban
10. When a man buys beautiful clothes and jewelry for his wife, he should bear in mind that he adorns the Divine presence represented in this world by none other than his wife.
Rabbi Isaiah Horowitz
