Remember fun? You know, those times when life was simple, no one took anything too seriously, it was O.K. to act silly, let down your hair, go with the crazy laugh and not feel self-conscious? The good old days. The carefree days.
Today most people seem really serious. Of course we have good reason to be serious. As we look at the world at large and see how insane so many people are acting, from our politicians to world leaders, it’s easy to get scared. The Middle East is in constant turmoil, there are riots breaking out in major cities here in the United States, Iran is close to getting nuclear capabilities, Russia is on a tear… need I say more?
And on a personal note, we are an aware and enlightened group of people. Most of us are constantly striving to do our best. Be our best. Good enough is never good enough. There is always another cause to support, another level of learning to achieve, another rung on the ladder to climb. These are good things. However, it’s hard to feel as cool as a cucumber when the pressure in always on. It may be self induced or we may be absorbing the pressure from outside sources, but the pressure nevertheless often feels like a cloak we’ve slung over our shoulders and can’t seem to remove.
One way of dealing with these stressors is by learning mindfulness techniques. Learning how to quiet the mind and relax in the moment.
More on this is another blog.
Another wonderful way of letting off some of the steam is by introducing more fun into our dating lives through exciting, unpredictable and out of the ordinary trysts. (Notice that my choice of a word for a “date” is, in and of itself, somewhat exotic and fun?) I know that some of you guys are actually creative and come up with a variety of interesting dating ideas. Kudos to you. Whether or not your dates ever led to anything long lasting, no doubt the women you took out will always remember the effort you put into coming up with a special encounter and the fun you both hopefully had.
As a public service, we’re asking you, our readers to please share with us some of your best, most interesting dates that you’ve pulled off or been on. What have you done other than have a drink in a hotel lobby or go out to dinner? The bolder the better. We want to know and we want to share your creativity with others who haven’t quite developed the same creative flair when planning a date.
Oh, and ladies, besides telling us about some of your most interesting dates, please share your fantasy dates. If you were the one in charge making all the plans, where would those ideas take you and your date?
Please write to us at thenavidaters@gmail.com. And be sure to check in soon to learn how to turn up the dial on your fun meter!!!!
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